As the chill of autumn settles in, my excitement for spooky ghosts peaks. However, unlike the playful spookiness of the season, ghosting behaviour is something I take seriously. Recently, I had the incredible opportunity to discuss this very topic with Amie Hughes from Rosemount Psychotherapy during an Instagram Live session.
Ghosting is a phenomenon that, though often disregarded, can have a substantial emotional impact. During our conversation, we covered several key points, which I’d like to elaborate on here.
What is Ghosting?
Ghosting refers to the abrupt end of communication in a relationship, leaving the person who was ghosted without any explanation. This sudden silence can occur in any type of relationship, whether it’s romantic, platonic or professional. Ghosting does not refer to removing yourself from an abusive or toxic relationship for your own safety.
How Does Ghosting Impact Us?
For those on the receiving end, ghosting can be a profoundly painful experience. The sudden withdrawal of attention and communication can lead to feelings of confusion, self-doubt and rejection. It often leaves the ghosted person questioning their worth and wondering what they did wrong. Our mental and emotional well-being can suffer significantly as we struggle to make sense of the silence.
Why Do We Ghost?
Understanding the reasons behind ghosting can be complex. Often, the ghoster may be trying to avoid confrontations or uncomfortable conversations. They might feel overwhelmed or unsure about how to express their feelings, so they opt for the path of least resistance. In some cases, fear of hurting the other person’s feelings or dealing with their reactions can prompt someone to ghost rather than communicate openly.
How to Cope with Being Ghosted
If you’ve been ghosted, it’s crucial to recognise that the behaviour of the ghoster says more about them than it does about you. It’s not your fault, and you are deserving of love, respect and meaningful communication. Here are some ways to cope with being ghosted:
- Acknowledge Your Emotions: Give yourself permission to feel hurt, confused and even angry. These emotions are valid and part of the healing process.
- Seek Support: Talking to friends, family or a therapist can provide you with the emotional support you need. They can offer perspective and help you navigate your feelings.
- Focus on Self-Care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Prioritising self-care can help you regain your sense of self-worth and balance.
- Avoid Blaming Yourself: Remember, ghosting reflects the ghoster’s inability to communicate effectively, not your shortcomings.
Moving Forward
Amie and I concluded our discussion with a powerful takeaway: If you have been ghosted, it is not your fault. You deserve love and respect and you are not to blame for someone else’s inability to communicate.
If you find yourself struggling with the aftermath of ghosting, whether as the ghosted individual or the ghoster looking to change their behaviour, I am here to support you. You can book your FREE consultation with me here.
For those who missed our insightful Instagram Live chat on ghosting, you can catch up on the conversation here.
Remember, you don’t have to navigate this experience alone. Let’s work together towards healing and healthier communication.
Ghosting | The Psychotherapeutic Coach 2024